What forgiveness is not

Daily reading: 2 Corinthians 2:1-10
Wednesday June 1, 2016

Focus passage: The punishment handed out by the majority is enough for this person.  This is why you should try your best to forgive and to comfort this person now instead, so that this person isn’t overwhelmed by too much sorrow. 2 Corinthians 2:7-8

Forgiveness is not saying that what someone did to us it o.k.  To forgive is different from condoning.  Forgiveness is not forgetting.  When someone has abused you, forgiveness does not mean that you are going to let them continue to abuse you over and over again.  Forgiveness is not the magic pass that allows people to continue to abuse and cross boundaries.

Forgiveness does not always mean reconciling.  If someone has hurt you so painfully, you can forgive but also create new boundaries whereby you may choose not to enter into a new relationship with them again.  Forgiveness does not mean that life goes back to the way it was before the incident happened.
Forgiveness does not negate the consequences of our actions.  If in a moment of anger if you break your brother’s toy, you still need to have it fixed or replaced regardless if forgiveness is extended to you.  Forgiveness does not mean what you did is o.k. and it does not mean forgetting. 

Prayer:  God help me to embrace forgiveness for myself and for others.  Be known in the mending of my brokenness and in the broken relationships in my life.  Amen. 


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